Incatenavo comes from the verb incatenare, meaning "to chain" or "to shackle." It's a strong and evocative word that immediately grabs attention.
In the song, the narrator uses it to describe his possessive love, saying, "La incatenavo solo verso sera" (I was chaining her only towards evening). This reveals a dark, obsessive side to his affection, making the word particularly impactful and central to the song's dramatic narrative about love and loss.
The narrator starts out sounding like any jilted lover. He doesn't know why she didn't love him: "Perché lei non mi amasse non lo so" (Why she didn't love me, I don't know). He gave her everything he had, and guesses it wasn't enough: "Forse cercava il cielo in questa stanza" (Maybe she was looking for the sky in this room). Then the details turn. He says he never kept her prisoner, but "La incatenavo solo verso sera" (I only chained her up towards evening), and he offers it as tenderness, a way to be close to her.
The chorus lists what love is to him: "un colpo di pistola" (a gunshot), "un pugno sulla schiena" (a punch in the back), "uno schiaffo per cena" (a slap for dinner), all set to a light, singalong "la-la-la". The last verse states it plainly: "Prima l'ho uccisa e dopo l'ho baciata" (First I killed her and then I kissed her), so as not to hear "un altro no" (another no). Brunori Sas sings a femicide in the cheerful voice of a love song, and the gap between the tune and the words is the point.